In Society, How Should A Young Lady Behave?

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In society and in the streets, how should a young lady behave?: The most proper attitude for a young lady is to be modest, sincere, plain and someone not provoking attention.

A disrespectful and sarcastic attitude is a sign of corruption. A young lady with good conduct never looks at an unrelated male with concern and care. It is far better not to look at them at all if it is possible. This should be done naturally, not artificially.

A lady’s glance over towards a man’s face encourages a sarcastic and aggressive man to become a pest.

A lady’s encouraging attitude towards a man will bring disaster. Human beings are different in character and habits as well as in their appearances. A smart and goodlooking face does not necessarily indicate a person with good conduct.

Strolling in a carefree way to attract attention does not leave a good impression. Such a girl will be made fun of and teased.

A young lady’s manner of dressing, her way of walking, and her attitude all give an idea about her religious beliefs, morals and character.

How should a young woman dress?
A young woman should appear in a clean and modest dress which doesn’t arouse any attention.

A girl too well dressed, especially in a decorative way, will provoke suspicion about her morals.

For a young woman to exhibit her private organs -busts and legs- so that they will be appreciated, is a sign of corrupt morals.

It is a must for a young lady who cares about herself and her family’s honor and dignity to dress modestly. A young lady dressing in a manner to hide her breasts while wearing a skirt which is full and ample is a sign that she is a modest house lady.

Some people, whose sole interest is pleasure and entertainment, do not hesitate to mislead others into mischief and disasters in order to attain their pleasures by saying, “It is something annoying one to see a woman covering herself like an ogre. On the other hand, it gives relief and pleasure to look at an ornamented, beautiful girl or woman in free attire. It is sweet, like watching or smelling a beautiful flower.” Looking at a flower or smelling a flower is sweet to the soul. It causes the soul to recognize the existence and the greatness of Allahu ta’âlâ and to obey His commandments. Looking at a nice-smelling, ornamented, and freely-dressed girl, on the other hand, is sweet to the nafs. The ear does not take any pleasure from colors, nor does the eye from sounds. For they do not sense these things. The nafs is the enemy of Allahu ta’âlâ. It will not hesitate to do any sort of evil whereby to attain its pleasures. It will violate human rights and laws. Its pleasures do not have an end. Looking at a girl will not satisfy it. It will desire to meet her and to practice all its pleasures. It is for this reason that all civil codes curb the eccentricities of nafses. Excessive desires of the nafs drift people into misery, diseases, family disasters, and afflictions. In order to prevent these disastrous situations, Allahu ta’âlâ has prohibited girls’ dressing freely and being close to men not related to them, alcohol, and gambling. People who have been enslaved by their nafs flout these prohibitions. So they censure the books of ’ilm-i-hâl written by scholars of Ahl as-Sunna and prevent young people from reading these books and attaining salvation. As is understood from all the aforesaid facts, it is sinful for women and girls to go shopping at market-places and stores. Muslims have to protect their daughters against these sins. Otherwise, they will lose their îmân and become disbelievers. Enemies of Islam misrepresent whatsoever is destructive to îmân as national customs in order to spread disbelief.

If a person denies or dislikes one of the inevitably known Islamic teachings, that is, teachings that are heard and known even by the common people living in Muslim countries, he becomes a disbeliever. For example, to eat pork, to have alcoholic drinks, to gamble; for a woman or girl to show herself to others with nothing to cover her head, hairs, arms and legs and; for a man to show himself to others without covering the part between the knees and the navel, are all harâm. That is, Allâhu ta’âlâ has forbidden these. The four madhhabs, which explain of the commands and prohibitions of Allâhu ta’âlâ, drew separately the boundary of the private body surface, which man is forbidden to look at or to display, differently from one another. It is fard for every Muslim to cover those parts of the body as described by the madhhab he belongs to. Also, it is harâm for others to look at those who have not covered these parts of their bodies. It is written in Kimyâ-yi Saâdet that it is harâm for women and girls to go out without covering their heads, hair, arms, legs, and it is also harâm to go out with thin, ornamented, tight and perfume scented dresses. Their mothers, fathers, husbands and brothers who permit them to go out as such and who think that it is appropriate and who condone them will share their sins and torments; that is, they will burn in Hell altogether. If they repent, they will be forgiven and will not be burned. Allâhu ta’âlâ likes those who repent. In the third year of the Hejira, girls and women who had reached the age of puberty were ordered not to be seen by nâ-mahram men, and to cover themselves.

One should not be deceived by the false assertions of British spies and of those ignoramuses who have been trapped by them who say that there was no covering before the coming of the âyat of hijâb and who say that fiqh scholars have fabricated the command for covering later. If a person professes Islam, he has to know whether something he does is compatible with the Sharî’at. If he does not know, then he has to learn by asking a scholar of Ahl as-sunnat or by reading books written by scholars in this category. If his action violates the Sharî’at, he will not be exempted from the sin or heresy caused by that action. He has to make tawba daily in the true sense. When tawba is made, the sin or heresy (caused by that action) will definitely be forgiven. If he does not make tawba, he will pay for it both in the world and in Hell.

Parts of the body that men and women are to cover during namâz and elsewhere are called ‘awrat parts’. If a person says that Islam does not prescribe a certain part in the name of awrat, he becomes an unbeliever. Some parts of the body are awrat according to the ijma’ (unanimity, consessu) of all four Madhhabs, (and these awrat parts vary with sex). If a person flouts the importance of covering these parts of his (or her) body or of not looking at others’ exposed awrat parts, i.e. if he (or she) does not feel any fear concerning the torment (that will be incrurred by the violation of this prohibition), he (or she) becomes a disbeliever. In a man’s body, parts between the pelvis and the knees are not awrat in the Madhhab of Hanbalî.

If a person says, “I am a Muslim,” he has to learn Islam’s tenets and the actions that are fard (obligatory) and those that are harâm (forbidden) with the consensus (ijma’) of the four Madhhabs, and he has to pay due importance to this matter. Not to know is not a valid excuse. It is identical with intentional unbelief. A woman’s entire body, with the exception of her hands and face, is awrat according to all four Madhhabs. So is the case with a woman’s exposing her awrat parts, singing, or saying (aloud the eulogy called) Mawlid in the presence of men. If a person slightingly exposes a part of his body which is awrat not with ijma’, i.e. which is not awrat in one of the other three Madhhabs, (though it is awrat according to his own Madhhab and two of the other three Madhhabs,) he will have committed a grave sin though this violation will not make him an unbeliever. An example of this is a man’s exposing his legs between the pelvis and the knees, (which are, as we have already said, not awrat in the Hanbalî though they are awrat in the other three Madhhabs). It is farz to learn the Islamic tenets that you do not know. As soon as you learn them, you must make tawba and cover your awrat parts.

See the article, – Unchaste Young Girls and Corrupt Individuals for more detail.